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Mirror... Reflections of Self-Esteem in Relationships and
Mirror… Reflections of Self-Esteem in Relationships and Therapy
Mirror… Reflections of Self-Esteem in Relationships and Therapy."
The request for communications oriented therapy often assumes a need for
self-esteem focused therapy. Poor communication directly harms
self-esteem and relationships as individuals poorly mirror each other.
Comment, complaining, criticizing, contempt, defensiveness,
disconnecting emotionally, and divorce are both stages of relationship
devolution, but also concepts to assess communication dynamics,
relationships, and direct therapy. Blocked or inappropriate expression
or feelings, covert communication, open versus closed communication,
congruence and connection, stances, games, and dysfunctional rules and
rituals are examined for recognizing key relationship problems and
therapeutic strategies. The development of self-esteem, relationship to
socialization, the Four Principles of Self-Esteem, and mutually
reciprocal affects between confrontation and conflict lead to two
specific tools: the Four Honorings of Communication and the Working It
Out Plan for therapy. In addition, the book presents the eight-step
process to build the self-reflective foundations of self-esteem and the
projective formulative seven-step process of self-esteem and the
90-Second-A-Day Self-Esteem Prescription Plan.