Relative status: Who defines what is important? Who has the right to have, express, and achieve goals, needs, and interests?Attention to the other: To what extent do both partners notice and attend to the other's needs and emotions? What do they do when attention is imbalanced?Accommodation patterns: Is one partner more likely to organize his or her daily activities around the other? If one person automatically accommodates, how do they attempt to justify these behaviors?Well-being: Does one person's sense of competence, optimism, or well-being seem to come at the expense of the other's physical or emotional health? Does the relationship support the economic viability of each partner"(Knudson-Martin and Mahoney, 2009, page 6).
POWER: The individual experiences a perceived lack of Power relative to his or her partner in the relationship, but does not feel safe or secure enough to confront the partner directly;PASSIVE: Despite being upset and angry, it can lead to a Passive response by the individual;PERMISSION: The passive response or lack of response, implies Permission to the partner to continue the behavior and incorrectly think everything is fine;PUNISH: The individual gains a resentment. With passive implied permission from being disempowered, he or she feels entitled to Punish the partner.
(1) procrastination,(2) verbal protests,(3) "forgetting" certain tasks,(4) slow performance, and(5) resenting useful suggestions.