Frequency looks at how often events or things occur. Positive frequency is to be increased (for example, increasing interactions from little or no time communicating daily events or feelings to connecting a couple of nights a week, to daily, to a couple of times daily- such as morning and night). Negative frequency is to be decreased (for example, from fighting every day to every other day to twice a week to once a week, to every other week, to monthly, to every third month…)Intensity looks at the degree of feelings. Positive intensity is to be increased (for example, from interactions with little or no acknowledgement- a slight nod change to a smile, eye contact, and verbalization, such as "thank you!" or behavior, such as a hug). Negative intensity to be decreased (for example, interactions that cause one to be so mad to need to scream and throw things, that become incrementally different, such as "only" screaming w/ veins popping, to yelling, to angry tones, to firm serious tones…)Duration looks at how long something persists. Positive duration is to be increased (for example, interactions that facilitate benign or positive feelings for oneself, for each other ,or couple or family's time together that last from little or none to a half day, to a full day, days, a week- oh my!). Negative duration is to be decreased (for example, from a two-week fight, to ten days, to one week, to 3 days, to one day, to 4 hours, to 2 hours, to a half hour, to a 15 minutes fight).Resonance looks at how much or how strongly experiences and interactions affect the rest of one's life. Positive resonance is to be increased (for example, interactions that create good feelings, a sense of satisfaction, attachment, and security from interactions increasingly positively resonates and affects ones entire life and functioning: affecting family functioning, diet, and sleep, mood, subsequent interactions and parenting, AND the core health of relationships. Negative resonance is to be decreased (for example, interactions or processes that successfully compartmentalizing negative interactions so as not to affect other life functioning, AND avoiding or curtailing doubts about the core health or viability of oneself or important relationships).Benefit/Damage looks at how ones core sense of a positive self and/or the foundation of the relationship is affected. Positive effects, that is benefit to be increased (for example, interactions that give greater hope, security, and confidence in oneself, each other, and the relationship). Negative effects, that is damage to be decreased (for example, interactions that cause despair about ones future or the future of the couple, family, all individuals, and self gradually shift to "only" causing momentary distress, or "only" despair about the future of the couple and family while staying secure about individuals and the self; to doubting the future but having overall confidence about the couple and family, etc.