1. Raising the self-esteem of the clients. Self-esteem is considered as one's own judgment, or experience, of one's own value.2. Helping clients to be their own choice makers. Satir encouraged people to consider at least three choices in any situation. She wanted to empower people to become their own choice makers. At the mechanistic, reductionist level of viewing humanity, we often find ourselves at one or the other end of a polarity: right or wrong, good or bad, for example. The Satir model, in simple terms, tries to avoid dilemmas such as "either/or" choices and advocates looking at one's situation in terms of three or more possibilities. The model also advocates a more integrative view instead of "either/or" thinking. Choices are not only decisions about one's actions; they include different responses to unmet expectations instead of a person's usual reactions.3. Helping clients to be more responsible. Responsibility includes being in charge of one's internal experiences, not only one's behavior. The main focus here often is being responsible for one's own feelings. This includes being in charge of them, managing them, and enjoying them. With the help of the written works of such authors as Damasio (1999), Le Doux (1996), and Pert (1997), the responsibility of individuals could move deeper inside towards the molecular level of responsibility and change. The Satir model is open to such possibilities in its therapeutic work.4. Helping clients become congruent. Congruence is a state of internal and external harmony. It is a sense of calmness, wholeness, peace, and tranquility. Congruence is a state therapists are encouraged to be in during their therapy sessions. It is a sense of empowerment, which means that the individual is not controlled or triggered negatively by the outside world, but responds to the world from a state of internal harmony with one's deepest Self, as well as with others and within the context of the situation (Banmen, 2002, page 11-12).
Are guarded with each otherAre hostileFeel powerless and controlled and are passiveAre inflexible in their views and behaviorsWear a façade of indifference toward each other