OVERVIEW: This workshop makes the connections between social and communication skills and conflict issues between children. The role of aggression, violence, and self-esteem as they develop in children. The developmental processes of the victim, abuser/bully, and survivor are discussed with reference to parenting styles, both positive and problematic. Methods are presented to build self-esteem in children and to protect them from becoming abusers/bullies and/or victims. Basic rules of communication and interaction are presented that facilitate positive conflict resolution skills and greater personal power and control/self-esteem.
1) KEY ISSUES IN CONFLICT RESOLUTION
2) VIOLENCE as BULLYING
Repetition, Aggression, Negative Intent, and Power Difference
Behavior, Verbalization To, and Verbalization About
RELATIONAL AGGRESSION (gender differences)
3) WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM MADE UP OF?
ACCEPTANCE, POWER & CONTROL, MORAL VIRTUE, & COMPETENCE
4) ABUSERS & BULLIES in terms of VIOLENCE/AGGRESSION
and the Search for Acceptance, Power & Control, Moral Virtue, & Competence
Problems; Causes, Characteristics
THE COERCION PARENTING MODEL
NONCONTINGENT PARENTING
RELATIONAL AGGRESSION
THE REACTIVE BULLY- Both Bully & Victim
5) VICTIMS in terms of VIOLENCE/AGGRESSION
and the Search for Acceptance, Power & Control, Moral Virtue, & Competence
ANXIOUS VULNERABILITY
NON-CONFLICT SUBMISSIVENESS
6) SURVIVORS in terms of VIOLENCE/AGGRESSION
and the Search for Acceptance, Power & Control, Moral Virtue, & Competence
VERBAL FLUENCY
7) ESSENTIAL INGREDIENTS TO POSITIVE CONFLICT RESOLUTION
GOALS IN ARGUMENTS/FIGHTS vs. WORKING THINGS OUT
ASSUMPTIONS IN ARGUMENTS/FIGHTS vs. WORKING THINGS OUT