"You like Power Rangers don't you? Power Rangers are very powerful. That's cool. I like the Blue Power Ranger. Which one do you like? They are so strong and powerful." It is important to distinguish the underlying motivation -- the desire to have power in this case, from the behavior that is expressed. After affirming the underlying motivation (Power), then you can define more appropriate behavior that is socially acceptable for expressing this motivation. "You know Power Rangers solve a lot of problems. Did you notice that they always try to solve the problems first by talking? And, you know something else? The Power Rangers, when they practice, they are very careful not hurt each other. They only hurt the bad guys, and only if they have to. They practice having a lot of control with their fighting."
Mine. My Teddy. NO! Mine. My Teddy. Don't touch. You can't touch. Mine. NO! My Teddy. Get your own Teddy. Mine. NO! Don't. My Teddy. My Teddy. Mine. Uh uh. NO! Go away!I don't like you no more! No more! Go home! My Teddy. NO! NO! NO!
"Ahhhhh!" A scream rips through the house. It's coming from the living room. "No! Stop it!" What is it now? "Ahhhhh! Stop hitting me!" You come out of the kitchen. It's Volume 54 No. 12... in the ongoing serial saga, "The Battle of the TV Remote Control," the epic struggle continues. "It's my turn! You chose last time. I hate you! Mommy! Make her stop!" “Make him stop!” What do I do? Who is right? Who is wrong? Who cares? (Not me!) They act like Rug Rats vs. Bugs Bunny is a life and death choice! If I let him have the remote control, she feels betrayed and gets sullen. If I let her have the remote control, he will say he doesn't want to be my kid anymore and throw a tantrum. If I turn off the television, they both hate me! Is he right? Is she right? Am I going crazy? Are these the joys of parenthood!? Ahhhhh! I think King Solomon would have cut the dang remote control in half!
- You made need wear that yucky shirt. I don' like little hearts anymore -- I like ponies, not hearts!
- I like peas. I like carrots. I hate broccoli! You made me eat that nasty stuff!
- I didn't want to get up -- I was still sleepy. What's an appointment? All I know is that it's something that makes me wake-up when I don' want to.
- I don' want to nap! I don' want to nap! I hate naps! I want to play! Grrrrr! I'm not tired -- you'd be grumpy too if someone tried to make you nap when you didn't want to!
- I don' want to play with yucky Johnny. I don' like yucky Johnny! I don't care that yucky Johnny's mother is your friend. I don't like yucky Johnny!
- This is fun. Hitting the bowl with a fork makes a neat sound. Whatcha' mean? Don't play with the fork? It's fun! Hey... Give it back!
- Mmmm, that feels good.... Mmmm, real good! Mmmm! Mmmm! What? Mmmm! Don't touch? Why not? Mmmm... Because what? What's nasty?
- Auntie Judy smells funny. And, she pinches my cheeks and gives yucky kisses! And she gave me that yucky shirt with the hearts... I'm supposed to feel grateful? That's yucky... she's yucky!
- Yucky yucky yucky! I'm wrong to feel that way? That's what you meant? That's what you want? I knew what you wanted!? I knew what you meant!? You know what I was thinking!? I was thinking what!? I was trying to get away with what!? Sheesh!! Can't I do anything!? Can't I even feel what I feel... or think what I think!?
- That's it!! You make me do all that... you tell me what I feel and think... that's it! There's only two things left I have control over -- only two things you can't take away... can't control. It's my pee! It's my poop! You can't have it when you want it! You can't make me put it were you want it! It's mine! It's mine!