1. A consistent and frequent being at the service of the patient, at a time arranged to suit mutual convenience.2. Being reliably there, usually on time.3. For a contracted-for period, keeping awake and becoming professionally preoccupied with the patient and nothing else (such as telephone calls, tape recorders, etc.)4. The expression of love by the positive interest taken and "hate" (as Winnicott sees it) in the strict start and finish and in the matter of fees.communicate this understanding by interpretation.6. Use of a method stressing a nonanxious approach of objective observation and scientific study, with a sense of physicianly vocation.7. Work done in a room that is quiet and not liable to sudden unpredictable sounds and yet not dead quiet; proper lighting of a room, not by a light staring in the face and not a variable light.8. Keeping out of the relationship both moral judgment as well as any uncontrollable need on the part of the therapist to introduce details of his personal life and ideas.9. Staying, on the whole, free from temper tantrums, free from compulsive falling in love, and so on, and in general being neither hostile and retaliatory nor exploitative toward the patient.10. Maintaining a consistent, clear distinction between fact and fantasy, so that the therapist is not hurt or offended by an aggressive dream or fantasy; in general eliminating any "talion reaction" and insuring that both the therapist and the patient consistently survive their interaction.
Emotion regulation,Interpersonal effectiveness,Distress tolerance, andSelf-management skills.