less arguing may be translated to feeling more respected;less fighting may be translated to more effective fighting with resolution;being on time may be translated to more awareness of communication needs;more sex may be translated to more intimacy;greater obedience may be translated to better defined roles.
1. Elicit information to/facilitate awareness2. Educate or to develop insight3. Facilitating catharsis4. Intervene/interrupt negative dynamics5. Heal current and older injuries or trauma6. Train… train what? Communication? Conflict resolution? How to fight?7. Preach!8. Reveal whatever needs to be revealed. Sometimes, these are Secrets. Sometimes, these are things just outside of conscious awareness.9. Create a safe forum for communication or conflict; to reveal Secrets10. Cross-cultural education/training11. Make everyone happy (as opposed to one person being happy and the others feeling resentful, resigned, or defeated)12. Verbalize rather than stifle anger. Find appropriate expressions of anger. Find underlying vulnerable feelings causing anger.13. Activate anger! Anger is often an empowering energy a member of a couple needs to take care of him or herself.14. Promote niceness/avoid conflict (no no no no no! Bad therapy!)15. To Make a… The Decision