The therapist told them that first, one partner, for example Pierce would do or say something that the other- Reba would interpret as an attack—a "f—k you!"Based on that interpretation, Reba would respond with some spiteful and hurtful comment or behavior—a "f—k you, back!"Pierce, not realizing that his initial comment or behavior was interpreted so negatively, would be surprised by the unexpected attack, basically thinking, "What Reba!? 'F—k YOU back!? Where'd that come from? …F—k you back to me!? …to me!? There was no 'f—k you, the first from me!"And then Pierre would snap (his first conscious or overt attack!), "F—k YOU Reba!"And, then Reba would respond with, an attack back, a "f—k you, BACK Pierce!"Pierce would be further outraged at Reba's SECOND blatant attack, "What 'f—k you, BACK!? No, no, no, no… that's not a 'f—k you, back'… it's a… it's a 'f—k you, to the SECOND degree!!'"And, then they'd go around and around; over and over in a very destructive and stupid pattern they recognized but could not stop- season tickets for the intimacy pain train.