Frequency looks at how often borderline reactive events occur. Positive frequency is to be increased (for example, increasing interactions where hurtful feelings were addressed calmly from infrequent to daily, to a couple of times daily, and eventually to almost all the time). Negative frequency is to be decreased (for example, from snide remarks every day to every other day to twice a week to once a week, to every other week, to monthly, to every third month…).Intensity looks at the degree of feelings. Positive intensity is to be increased (for example, from benign acknowledgment, to gracious appreciation, to interactions with warm emotional verbalization or hugs). Negative intensity is to be decreased (for example, furious interchanges become incrementally less intense by becoming heated exchanges, to intense disagreement, to minor aggravation).Duration looks at how long something persists. Positive duration is to be increased (for example, interactions that facilitate benign or positive feelings for each other last longer and longer from a few minutes to hours to days to weeks). Negative duration is to be decreased (for example, from a two-week seething resentment, to ten days, to one week, to 3 days, to one day, to 4 hours, to 2 hours, to a half hour, to a 15 minutes fight).Resonance looks at how much couple's interactions affect the rest of one's life. Positive resonance is to be increased (for example, good feelings, a sense of satisfaction, attachment, and security from interactions positively and increasingly resonate throughout ones life, and through the couples relationship. Negative resonance is to be decreased (for example, increased ability to compartmentalize negative interactions so as not to affect other life functioning, and decreased doubts about the quality or viability of the couples relationship).Benefit/Damage looks at how the foundation of the relationship is affected. Positive effects- benefit is to be increased (for example, as reflected in greater hope, security, and confidence in each other and the relationship). Negative effects- damage is to be decreased (for example, reducing anxiety, insecurity, and despair about the future of the couple and self gradually shift).
Fewer and less frantic efforts to avoid abandonment,More stable and less intense interpersonal interactions- lower reactivity,Less idealization and devaluation- a more stable sense of the partner,A more stable sense of self,Less impulsivity and with less harmful behaviors,Reduction in frequency and intensity of suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, and self-mutilating behavior,More stable affective moods- less depression and lower anxiety,Less chronic and less intense feeling of emptiness, less intense anger,More appropriate expression of anger, better control of anger, andLess stress and less resultant paranoid ideation or disassociative symptoms.
Less impairment self functioning of identity resulting in less impoverished, more developed, or more stable self image, less excessive self-criticism; fewerchronic feelings of emptiness or dissociative states under stress.Less impairment in self-direction with greater stability in goals, aspirations, values, or career plans.Less impairments in interpersonal functioning involving empathy, including improved ability to recognize the feelings and needs of others associated with improved interpersonal sensitivity (i.e., less prone to feel slighted or insulted); perceptions of others with less selectively biased toward negative attributes or vulnerabilities.Less impairments in intimacy, including less negatively intense, stable, and cohesive close relationships, marked by trust, mutual fulfillment of need, and realistic self-soothing when dealing with real or imagined abandonment; close relationships often viewed in realistically, valued, with less alternating between over involvement and withdrawal- a more stable sense of intimacy.Less negative affectivity characterized by emotional liability: stable emotional experiences and less frequent mood changes; lower emotional arousal, more mellow, and/or proportional to events and circumstances.Less negative affectivity characterized by anxiousness: less intense feelings of nervousness, tenseness, or panic, less reactive to interpersonal stresses; less worry about the negative effects of past unpleasant experiences and future negative possibilities (increase confidence in the future); less fearful feelings, less apprehension, or less threatened by uncertainty; less fears of falling apart or losing control.Less negative affectivity characterized by separation insecurity: confidence about relationships with less fears of rejection by –and/or separation from significant others, confident and appropriate dependence, independence, inter-dependence, and autonomy.Less negative affectivity characterized by depressivity: less frequent feelings of being down, miserable, and/or hopeless; ability to recover efficiently from such moods; optimism about the future; ability to avoid shame; feeling of self-worth; fewer or no thoughts of suicide and suicidal behavior.Increased and appropriate inhibition, characterized by lowered impulsivity: contemplating consequences before responding to immediate stimuli; acting based on a plan or consideration of outcomes; ability establishing or following plans; improved management of a sense of urgency and avoiding self-harming behavior under emotional distress.Increased and appropriate inhibition, characterized by less frequent and limited risk taking: avoidance of dangerous, risky, and potentially self-damaging activities, consideration of necessity and regard to consequences; concern for one's limitations and the reality of personal danger.Lowered antagonism, characterized by lowered hostility: occasional or infrequent angry feelings; lowered anger or irritability in response to minor slights and insults.
Clearer and more assertive boundaries- less tolerance for poor treatment,More confrontation of dysfunctional borderline behavior,More verbalizing care about the individual's distress,Less deferring or acquiescing to unreasonable demands,More awareness of the individual with borderline personality disorder's underlying needs,More consistent boundaries for self,Recognizing and cutting off unproductive interactions more quickly- less reactivity to the individual's borderline behaviors,Recognizing more quickly the individual's abandonment fears, affective instability, and other borderline characteristics,More expectations and demands for appropriate treatment.
More frequent positive interactions,Fewer negative interactions- specifically, less borderline triggered conflicts,More positive intensity and less negative intensity- specifically, lower borderline reactivity,Shorter and less damaging arguments and fights,Longer positive periods and shorter negative periods- specifically, quicker re-stabilization after being triggered,More positive affects on other areas of life and less negative affects on other areas of life- specifically, improved overall self-esteem and security,Lower frailty and greater relationship stability,Improved quality of relationship/life,Less relationship/life stress,More intimacy, andLess borderline drama.