Maybe if I give her something, she'll behave better. But if I give her something to do her work, then maybe she won't do anything anymore unless I keep on giving her something. But she's not behaving now, so what's to lose? My dad doesn't think you should get rewarded for something you're supposed to do anyway. When I got straight A's, I didn't get anything for them. I was expected to get straight A's. In fact, when I got a B that time, I got yelled at. Maybe if I put her on timeout, she'll behave better. But when I do that, she gets even angrier and fights with me even more. She doesn't seem to care how many privileges I take away. She just gives me that dirty look and goes hides her face on the desk. And, there's no way I can get her a toy like some teachers or parents do when she gets good grades. Shoot... I'd be happy if she just tried! She wants a more free... maybe I can give her some free time right before lunch. She promised that she would “be good” if I let her play. But once she gets what she wants, she probably won't behave or try anyway. "I'll gladly pay you Thursday for a hamburger today." Isn't that what Wimpy used to tell Popeye all the time? What am I to do?
1. Create real (and appropriate) power and control for both children and teachers or parents.2. Create means for the child to get validation.3. Defuse the power struggle and create the "Win, Win" situation.4. Remove punishment as a mode of discipline and replace with reinforcement/reward principles.5. Remove conflict from the relationship and replace with contracts.6. Remove anger as relevant to the relationship.
"If or when you __________, then this ____________ will happen.""If you want ____________, you need to do _____________."
"If or when you don’t __________, then this ____________ won't happen.""Although you wanted ____________, since you felt you didn't need to do _____________, you won't get ____________."
1. power and control is created for both children and teachers or parents.2. A means is created for the child to get validation.3. The power struggle has been defused and a "Win, Win" situation has been created.4. Punishment has been removed and been replaced with reinforcement/reward principles.5. Conflict is moved and replaced with contracts.6. Everyone is happier and not angry.
"Be good-“Don't be bad""Be more helpful around the classroom or house"
"Do all your classwork before any free time""Put the toys and equipment back in their places"
"Be in your seat before the late bell”"Clear your desk before going to recess""Hang your coat or jacket on your hook"
183 points for each of the 183 days,plus 26 five-point bonuses for each of the 26 weeks,plus 13 ten-point bonuses for each of the 13 two-week periods,plus 6 twenty-point bonuses for each of the 6 one-month periods,plus the final 100 point bonus for the six-month period.
- Frequency and/or consistency should be rewarded.- The greater the goal, the greater the reward. Achieving minor goals should result in minor rewards; more substantial goals have more substantial rewards; major goals have major rewards.- Children choose rewards (through negotiation with adults).- Adults choose goals (through negotiation with children).