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Ronald Mah, M.A., Ph.D.
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How Dangerous
- How Dangerous is this Person?
- 1. The Question
- 2. Intuition, Conceptualization, & Resp
- 3. Assessing Assertion-Violence Continuum
- 4. Clarifying Questions
- 5. Characteristics and Criteria
- 6. Profiles for Aggression/ Violent Beh
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Opening the Can of Worms-Cple
- Opening Can Worms
- 1. Major Complications to Cple Th
- 2. Focus on Emotions
- 3. Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
- 4. Intense Emotionality- Bipolar DO
- 5. Psychoeducation Foundations
- 6. Chronicity, Grief, and Loss
- 7. Self-Medication Interfering w/Cple Th
- 8. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
- 9. Developmental Trauma Disorder
- 10. Domestic & Foreign Warzones
- 11. Sexual Trauma
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Conflict Control-Cple
- Conflict Control-Cple
- 1. Assertion Aggression Cple
- 2. Anger in Relationships
- 3. Couple Therapy?
- 4. Domestic Violence Therapy
- 5. Abuse: Bully-Victim Dynamics
- 6. Boundaries and Consequences
- 7. Cple Compositions w/Aggression
- 8. Beyond Bullying Abuse
- 9. Attachment
- 10. Social Information Processing
- 11. Verbal Fluency
- 12. Types and Patterns
- 13. Acceptance Peers & Education
- 14. Cycle of Tension-Cycle of Violence
- 15. Power and Control
- 16. SensitivityVigilance-HyperSenVigil
- 17. Impoverished Dialogical Process
- 18. Paranoid Narcissistic Borderline
- 19. Paranoid Challenges to Cple Rel.
- 20. Too Much
- 21. Distrust as Foundation to Therapy
- 22. Exceptions and Exceptional
- 23. Antisocial PDO in Cple Therapy
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- 25. It Depends
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I Don't You Don't, DepAnxiety-Cple
- I Don't You Don't, DepAnxiety-Cple
- 1. I Don't Matter- You Don't Matter
- 2. Gender Differences
- 3. Cultural Perspectives
- 4. All Therapy is About DepAnxiety
- 5. Marriage is About DepAnxiety!
- 6. Stressors DepAnxiety Marital Distress
- 7. Antecedents- Distal Elements
- 8. Habitual Responses & Attributions
- 9. DepAnxiety Makes Sense-OK is Crazy
- 10. Attachment
- 11. Communication & ProbSolving
- 12. Therapist DepAnxiety
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Ouch Borderline in Couples
- Ouch Borderline-Cple
- 1. Challenge of Borderline PDO
- 2. Insight,Holding,DialecticalBeh Ther
- 3. Borderline PDO Couple Therapy
- 4. Effect on Couples & Partners
- 5. Features & Criteria
- 6. CultureAgeGenderFamily-DiffDX
- 7. Abandonment Fears & Attachment
- 8. ExperientialTrinity-ResponseTrinity
- 9. Emotional Intelligence
- 10. Challenging the Paradigm
- 11. Sensitivity & Support
- 12. Alone Lonely Desperate Choice
- 13. Quantitative Change
- 14. Embrace Challenge
- 15. Differences in Therapy
- 16. Therapist Vulnerabilities
- 17. Integration of Multiple Factors
- 18. Partner Insight
- Conclusion:ClinicalFlexibilityAdaptability
- Bibliography
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Scorpion Narciss-Cple
- Scorpion in the Bed- Narcissistic in Cple
- 1. Ambush! Narcissist Partner in Cple Th
- 2. Features & Criteria
- 3. Narcissistic Personalities in Cple Th
- 4. Narcissistic PDO and/or Other DO
- 5. Kill the Therapist
- 6. Suitability for Cple Th- as a Cple
- 7. Partner Matches w/Narcissist
- 8. DSM Partner Diagnoses
- 9. Etiology
- 10. Therapy
- 11. TherapistFrustration/ClientAntagonism
- Conclusion- Gazing into the Abyss
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SunMoon DependentHistrionic-Cple
- SunMoon DependentHist-Cple
- 1. Relationship Imbalance
- 2. Expanse of Problems
- 3. Dependent PDO in Cple & Therapy
- 4. Origins
- 5. Couple Therapy Dependent Partner
- 6. Phases & Goals in Therapy
- 7. Third Partner
- 8. Audience for the Histrionic
- 9. Potential to Change
- 10. Dependent vs. Histrionic PDO
- 11. Histrionic PDO in Cple and Therapy
- 12. Origins
- 13. Validating Logical Craziness
- 14. Mechanisms for Survival
- Bibliography
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Odd Off Different-Cpl
- Odd Off Different-Cpl
- Intro: What Is With This Person?
- 1. Time, Attention, & Energy Demands
- 2. Social Cues
- 3. Getting Too Much-Not Getting It
- 4. Not Getting It In the Couple- I
- 5. Not Getting It i=In the Couple- II
- 6. ADHD/ADD- Focus
- 7. Aspergers Syndrome- Rote Learning
- 8. Fit and Misfit
- Conclusion: Learning=Study+Practice
- Bibliography
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Mine Yours Addiction- Cpl
- Mine Yours Addiction-Cpl
- Introduction
- 1. Addictions or Compulsivity Cples
- 2. Behavior Change Plus
- 3. Criteria Substance Abuse/Addictions
- 4. Threatening to Abandon Therapy
- 5. Cultural Norms Stereotypes DX
- 6. Alchoholic Dysfunctional FamSystems
- 7. Concordant Couples
- 8. Avoiding Addict Label Battle
- 9. Complications & Frustration
- 10. Two Personas- Who is in Control?
- 11. Early Recovery
- 12. Therapist as Witness
- 13. Support Systems
- 14. Wanting Change w/o Changing
- 15. Self-Soothing/Self-Care-Self-Med
- 16. Resentments & Communicaiton
- 17. Relapse & Relapse Prevention
- 18. Pattern, Process, & Plan
- 19. Therapeutic Relapse
- 20. Middle-Later Stages of Therapy
- 21. Lifestyle Change
- Appendix
- Bibliography
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SorryNotEnough- Infidelity-Cpl
- SorryNotEnough-Infidelitiy-Cpl
- 1. Sorry is Not Enough
- 2. Causes of Infidelity
- 3. Prevalence
- 4. Potential Cross-Cultural Issues
- 5. Types and Function
- 6. Characterological Issues
- 7. Partner/Relationship Characteristics
- 8. Initial Stages of Affair & Therapy
- 9. Recovery & Healing
- 10. Foregiveness / Reconciliation
- 11. Transparency
- 12. Context for Infidelity
- 13. Trauma & Trust
- 14. Old Patterns of Behavior
- Conclusion
- Bibliography
- Therapy Interruptus
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DownRelRabbitHole- Assessment
- Down Rel RabbitHole
- Introduction: Dick and Jane
- 1. Beginning Questions
- 2. Foundations for Couples/Relationships
- 3. Facilitating Trust
- 4. Facilitating Vulnerability
- 5. Facilitating Self-Expression
- 6. Facilitating Empahty
- 7. Facilitating Investment
- 8. Using the Five Foundations
- 9. Devolution of the Relationship
- 10. Using Concepts in Therapy
- 11. Emotional Reconnection
- 12. Taking Individual Responsibility
- 13. Acknowledging Respective Injuries
- 14. Understanding Symbolic Comm
- 15. Learning Healthier Communication
- 16. Therapy from Assessment
- Conclusion: Out of the Rabbit Hole
- Bibliography
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Out of Dev Chrysalis Intimacy/Relationship
- Out of Dev Chryalis Intimacy/Relationship
- Introductio: WhyPickUpBabyCrying?
- 1. Therapy as Re-Parenting
- 2. Basic Rules of Dev Theories
- 3. Development Happens in Stages
- 4. Critical Periods in Development
- 5. Quantitative to Qualitative Change
- 6. Dev is Sequential & Progressive
- 7. SkippingRushing DevProblems
- 8. GettingStuck Regressing-StressAbuse
- 9. Developmental Energy Reasserts
- 10. Resiliency DevEnergy Later
- 11. Satiation Triggers Dev Progression
- 12. Anxiety & Attachment
- 13. Practice Anxiety
- 14. Attachment Theory
- 15. Reflective Function
- 16. Separation Distress
- 17. Emotionally Focused Therapy
- 18. AttachInjury ResolutionModel
- 19. TherapeuticCues-Age-InapprBeh
- 20. "I'm Fine"- Denial
- 21. "You're the One!"- Projection
- 22. "I'm Sorry"- Introjection
- 23. CognDevProcessing- Relationships
- 24. Magic- Pre-Operational Thinking
- 25. If This, Then That- Concrete Oper
- 26. DependOn, ThenThis- Formal Oper
- 27. Facilitating Dev Progression
- 28. Quantitative/Qualitative Concrete/Abs
- Conclusion
- Bibliography
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Born That Way- Termperament Rel
- Born That Way- Termperament Rel
- Introduction: Born That Way
- 1. Temperamental Traits
- 2. Intake w/o Temperamental Focus
- 3. Evaluation & Assessment
- 4. Context AmpsMitigates Temperament
- 5. Temperament & Anxiety
- 6. Attachment & Temperament
- 7. Learning Disabilities & Temperament
- 8. Personality Psychopathology Couples
- 9. Gender Characteristics
- 10. CultChallenges SpecTemperament
- 11. Successful Temperament-Personality
- 12. Temperamental Profiles
- 13. Positive Characteristics
- 14. Negative Characteristics
- 15. Goodness of Fit - Mutual Match
- 16. AssessTemperament & GoodnessFit
- 17. Therapy-Adapting for Mismatch
- Conclusion
- Bibliography
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Ghost Guest Family Past
- GhostGuests FamilyPast Rel & Ther
- Introduction: Puppy, Poppi, Pauly - Copy
- 1. Neurosis & Reality Check
- 2. Scripts & Ghosts in Relationships
- 3. Compulsive Anticipation- Dynamics
- 4. Story & Coherence
- 5. Indicators FamOriginTher-X Factors
- 6. Illogical Values
- 7. Psuedo-Maturity
- 8. Rigidity of Roles
- 9. Preponderance Implicit Rules
- 10. Incorrect-Illogical Perception
- 11. Distancer-Pursuer Script
- 12.Gallant Knight-Damsel Script
- 13. Daddy'sGhost-Momma'sGirlScript
- 14. Money Scripts
- 15. Big Deal Out of Nothing Script
- 16. NuclearFam Proj- Triangulation
- 17. Differentiation
- 18. Multi-Generation Transmission
- Conclusion
- Bibliography
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Roles Rigidity Repair in Relationships
- Roles Rigidity Repair in Relationships
- Introduction: Functionality
- 1. Roles, Hierarchy, & Re-Structuring
- 2. Match and Change
- 3. Equity & Inequity
- 4. Composition
- 5. Abuse Substance Abuse & Addiction
- 6. Join the System
- 7. Assess & Challenge
- 8. Reframe & Challenge
- 9. Authority & Power Indicators
- 10. Equity & Allocation Consensus
- 11. Power Benefit Romance
- 12. Rock of Resentment
- 13. Ineffective Conflict Resolution
- 14. Poorly Defined Roles- "Help"
- 15. Poor Commnication
- 16. Rigid or Enmeshed Boundaries
- 17. Inappropriate Coalitions
- 18. Authoritarian & Permissive Familes
- Conclusion: Therapy Temp Exec System
- Bibliography
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Out Monkey Trap- Breaking Cycles Rel
- Out Monkey Trap- Breaking Cycles Rel
- Introduction: STRATEGIC PRINCIPLES
- 1. Sequence & Hierarchy
- 2. Basic Plan & Basic Questions
- 3. Treatment Plan
- 4. Interrupting the Pattern
- 5. Techniques
- 6. Humor
- 7. Things That Happen
- 8. Interpretation
- 9. Harm
- 10. Personal Effects
- 11. Response
- 12. Cyclical Behavior Patterns
- 13. Stuck Patterns of Behavior
- 14. Stereotyped Perception/Lack Flexibility
- 15. Lack Cognitive Insight
- 16. Persence Unacknowledged Values
- 17. AuthoritarianTraditions & Patterns
- 18. Question the Premises
- 19. Paradoxical Directives
- 20. Second Order Change
- 21. Crisis Impasse 2nd Order Change
- Conclusion: Monkey Trap
- Bibliography
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Mirror Mirror- Self-Esteem Relationships
- Mirror MIrror-Self-Esteem Relationships
- Intro: Communication Oriented Therapy
- 1. Assessment
- 2. Treatment Plans & Goals
- 3. Interventions
- 4. Indicators Communication Therapy
- 5. Dysfunctional Rules & Rituals
- 6. How Self-Esteem is Developed
- 7. Self-Esteem & Socialization
- 8. Confrontation & Conflict
- 9. Four Honorings of Communication
- 10. Working Out Plan
- 11. Self-Esteem Theory Principles
- 12. Power & Control
- 13. Competence
- 14. Foundations of Self-Esteem
- 15. Self-Esteem in Relationship
- 16. Communication & Behavior
- Conclusion: 90 Seconds a Day
- Bibliography
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All Relationships MultiCult
- All Relationships Multi-Cult
- Intro: Inherently Cross-Cult/Multi-Cult
- 1. Mismatch Cross-Cult Challenges
- 2. Therapists & Potential Diversity
- 3. Multiple Couples Assessments
- 4. TrapsChallenges-Determinism Rel
- 5. Stereotypes
- 6. Problematic Approaches
- 7. Educational Enrichment Approach
- 8. Moralistic Approach
- 9. Atonement Debt Guilt Approach
- 10. Entitlement Victim Approach
- 11. Quasi-Cathartic Invasive Approach
- 12. Practical Functional Approach
- 13. Basic Definitions
- 14. Changing Survival Demands
- 15. TherapyTherapist Match Clients
- 16.Cultural Change Goes Slowly
- 17. Convergence
- 18. Expression Areas Cult Differences
- 19. Gender Roles
- Conclusion
- Bibliography
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Therapy! What's Therapy?
- Therapy? What's Therapy
- Introduction: Roles of the Therapist
- 1. Therapist Is... Therapy Is...
- 2. Judge - Referee
- 3. Facilitator - Mirror
- 4. Guide - Educator
- 5. Fixing - Interventionist
- 6. Parent
- 7. Therapist Cross-Cultural Guide
- 8. Therapist & Client Goals
- 9. Goals of Clients
- 10. Hope
- 11. Cultural Goals
- 12. Doing Your Own Therapy
- 13. Liking... Not Liking Clients
- 14. Ind Therapy in Cple & Fam Therapy
- 15. Challenge & Dissonance
- 16. Challenge Again
- 17. Name It
- Conclusion: It Depends
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On the Meaning of Success
Attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson, Bessie A. Stanley & Others
“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children ... to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is the meaning of success.”
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Ronald Mah, M.A., Ph.D.
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT32136
